And the State of Stigma In Australia
In the last few years, the wearing of lingerie among men has skyrocketed – even though this might sound bizarre to many, or to some, an affront.
However, just like other things in life, men need to be given the freedom of choice because what drives true freedom is self-expression. Authentic self-expression through clothing ought to cut across all gender boundaries and not be limited to one gender or another alone.
While women are “allowed” to wear lingerie and feel sexy in them; men who want to, or do, wear lingerie are stigmatised and labelled derogatorily as gay, unmanly, girlish, or worse. This is due to the fact that there seems to be a societal notion that men who wear lingerie, or other non traditional men’s garments, are not “normal”, and thus because human society doesn’t like the unknown, they are ostracised until it goes away.
However, one fundamental question that must be asked is this; aren't all men allowed to show off their sexy and playful side and also enjoy the comfort of less clothing between me down there?
Throughout human history, people have been pilloried for the things they wear. Not long ago, skinny jeans, shorts and the like were looked at in disdain. Now, in 2019, they are part of the norm that society is used to – we don’t look twice at it anymore. Men’s lingerie is now the next step in this evolution.
What so many people tend to forget is that women have also been wearing traditionally men’s clothing for a long time now. Instead of stereotyping and labelling men who wear lingerie, all effort needs to be channelled towards allowing men take their undies game to the next level.
When it comes to men’s lingerie in Australia, it’s slim pickings out there, folks. There are a couple companies that are offering lace and frills for men. These companies have also picked up of the stigmatisation associated with men that wear lingerie.
For instance, there is an Australian brand that manufactures and sells men’s only lingerie including G-strings, bras, panties and nighties and advocates that there should be no stigma attached to men who wear lingerie.
A statement on the company's FAQ page reads as follows; "We provide our lingerie for guys. We are not concerned if you are gay, straight, vegetarian, Republican, Anglican, Martian or any other persuasion. We design and manufacture attractive luxury underwear for men.” They also state that “Lingerie provides great visual subversion of heterosexual, masculine ideals and it also gives men a chance to explore alternate forms of aesthetic expression without stigma."
"I enjoy seeing my man in lingerie because it adds a new dimension to our lovemaking and gives him the freedom he needs to be himself."-- Hope Alexander
Writing in support of men who wear lingerie, Hope Alexander, who is an advocate of men in lingerie said; "I enjoy seeing my man in lingerie because it adds a new dimension to our lovemaking and gives him the freedom he needs to be himself."
There are so many reasons why men should consider wearing lingerie; this includes:
- Comfort: Lingerie can offer excellent comfort for men; it provides excellent coverage for your junk, while still showing enough skin to keep you alluring, and is made out of the softest lace, mesh, or fishnet allowing everything to get fresh air.
- Helps you feel sexy (and horny): Wearing lingerie makes some men feel sexy, and thus, horny. In fact, just knowing that you are putting on something sexy makes you feel sexy. The truth is that some men love to initiate foreplay, and ultimately sex, while wearing something more thought of as “women’s” underwear.
Okay, this list could go on for a very, very long time. But I’ll rest it on this – whatever the reason a man feels like wearing lingerie, the only person’s business it is, is his own. Whether it’s for comfort, to feel sexy, or whatever – as long as they aren’t hurting anyone, then what does it matter.
To my lingerie wearing men and my men who want to wear lingerie but haven’t yet – don’t worry about what society thinks. There are two quotes that come to my mind when I think of society’s ire and stigmatisation of things. “Unless they gonna pay your bills, pay them bitches no mind.” and “What other people think of me is none of my business.”. These wise words are from a man who is used to drawing attention for going against the grain, RuPaul Charles, most likely the most successful Drag Queen in the world.
So, Society, forget the stereotype. Men in lingerie, sexy underwear cuts, lace, mesh, fishnets, or even heels, is starting to become the new norm, and it’s only for the better. If it’s not for you, that’s great, if it is, even better. If it’s not, then walk on; there’s no need to make a scene and shun. I don’t like a muumuu on anyone, but you also won’t see me walking up a muumuu wearer’s driveway with a torch and pitchfork.